Are your own self-limiting beliefs holding you back from true success? Are those beliefs based on fact or fiction? Find out in this weeks edition of Success on the far side of fifty
If you are a mature, experienced adult who has not yet achieved the level of success that you hope for; there is really only one problem – you!! You are doing and thinking the wrong things, but the good news is you can change that.
We live in a world of plenty. Our world is filled with massive amounts of resources- in this world we can do or be pretty much anything we can conceive of.
Knowledge, the greatest resource on the planet, is for all intents and purposes freely available to virtually every North American. We all have access to libraries, book stores and the Internet. We have easy access to information that can guide us toward the achievement of any goal – losing weight, writing a book, starting a business. In fact, there is someone out there who will show us exactly how to do anything we want, usually for free or little cost.
Recently I decided to build my own website. While I had no experience to speak of I thought it would be an excellent learning experience. With a couple of Google searches I was able to find all the information I needed to become decently proficient at building websites. I now have a very nice website as well as a folder full of various tutorials for future reference and, should the need arise; I am well equipped to create other websites. I have learned another new and valuable skill.
My point is that there are very few of us who can legitimately blame anyone or anything else for us not achieving our goals. Most of us are not lacking resources, we are lacking resourcefulness.
Despite the availability of resources it is still difficult for many of us to achieve a high level of success and it can be harder still for us “experienced” adults to move forward and become more successful in the future than we have been in the past.
For the most part it is our patterns of thinking and acting that hold us back from success and as older adults we have many, many attitudes and beliefs that are extremely well ingrained.
We folk on the far side of fifty have to accept that, in order for us to truly achieve a new level of success, we need to fully understand what has been holding us back. We need to come to terms with the self-limiting beliefs and crippling habits and we have to deal with them. Somehow, some way we must honestly and correctly identify and eliminate the things that hold us back.
Until we discover and deal with the attitudes and beliefs that hold us back we cannot move ahead- period.
At the very top of this list are the limiting beliefs we accept to be true about ourselves.
I have met hundreds of people who told me they are completely incapable of public speaking – is that fact or fiction?
Other people have told me they are no good at meeting people – fact or fiction?
I know other people who say there is no way they could write a book – fact or fiction?
Still other folks say they can’t start a business, or run a marathon, or lose the weight they want to. Are these facts or are they fiction?
The list goes on and on and on and most of it is simply untrue. With only a little effort we can find hundreds if not thousands of people who have achieved a very high level of success in the same endeavor we want to pursue and these people live in the same world as we do. The world has the potential to provide us all the success we desire, we just need to figure out how to get it.
Regardless of age we all have tremendous potential. Learning to unleash that potential has to start with reducing or eliminating our self-limiting beliefs and unlearning many of the things we hold to be true.
Identifying, understanding and then eliminating these self-limiting beliefs is one of the first things I do with my coaching clients.
The process is simple but not easy.
I ask people to start journaling about their goals and aspirations as well as the things that are preventing them from achieving those objectives. Don’t think of this as an exact science, think of it as a brain dump.
We then use the notes from the journaling sessions to help us define the major self-limiting beliefs. Once we have a good handle on the major issues we then start to make an action plan to change those beliefs.
As an example one lady I met with wanted to run a marathon. Due to her fibromyalgia she physically was not capable of running at all. Underneath it all was the fact that she truly believed she would never be capable of running such a distance, she felt that her illness had ripped her physical ability away. Having identified a major self-limiting belief we broke her goal of running a marathon down into tiny incremental steps that she could absolutely achieve. Her journey to running a marathon began with her walking to the end of her driveway and back.
It took years but, over time, her body got stronger and her beliefs changed. She eventually ran her marathon but retraining her mind was as difficult as conditioning her body.
What is your marathon? What’s holding you back from running it?
Try journaling about it. Once you figure out what is holding you back start taking small steps to make the big changes you want to see.
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